As a general rule I write about happiness. As a general rule I am happy. Because of this, it is especially important that I let you know that I have bad moments too. I also have some tips for getting back on the happiness track.
A Frustrating Afternoon or Pushing Away Negative Emotions
A few days ago, I was feeling a little frustrated. Something I have been working really hard on was not going as well as I had expected. (With a few minor changes it is going better than expected now!) The kids were arguing. Trying to get them all in the car so that we would be on time for an appointment was a little (perhaps more than a little) challenging.
While we normally keep the TV off on weeknights, this particular night we watched the Disney movie Inside Out. I realized something about myself as I watched how each of the emotions contributed to Riley’s overall well being. It is something I have always known, yet somehow had forgotten. Inside Out helped me remember that experiencing other, less joyful moments make the rest of life that much sweeter. It is because I am able to feel a range of emotions that I am able to really appreciate, and often choose, happiness.
I had been pushing away my negative feelings in an effort to find my way back to happiness. I thought that if I ignored them, they would go away. When I allowed myself a few minutes to accept and really feel the frustration that had built up earlier in the day, I was able to acknowledge that feeling and let it go. And the funny thing is, as soon as I did so, happiness and gratitude returned.
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What I Learned
Often I feel like I should only write about happiness. That is the whole point of this website: to inspire self love and help people live their best lives, now. However, I realized that acknowledging the range of emotions we go through as human beings is important too. Everyone experiences, and may even struggle with, negative emotions from time to time.
The key is how we react to them and what we choose to do about it. I tried to push through some negative emotions. It didn’t work. I only became more frustrated. Once I chose to accept my feelings, I was easily able to move on to happiness again. I know this stuff. I know how important it is to really feel emotions in order to let them go and return to my natural state of happiness. Yet for some reason I struggled with that.
So why am I sharing this with you? Sometimes negative emotions like anger, sadness, frustration, fear, etc. can make us feel alone. This is a reminder that others go through the same thing. And more importantly, I hope to share some tools that help get you back to happiness fast.
6 Ways to Be Happier
1. Really experience whatever emotion you are feeling. Feelings persist as long as they are being pushed away.
2. Count your blessings. I know, it’s been a hard day. That is exactly why it’s a great idea to look around and show gratitude for all that is going well in your life. Whether it is a warm meal or a comfortable pair of shoes, find something (or several somethings) that you are truly grateful to have in your life. This immediately puts you into a more positive mindset. It also helps you attract more things to be grateful for into your life.
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3. Laugh. You can catch up with a friend who always makes you laugh or read some jokes. I really like to watch funny TV shows or movies when I need a good laugh. (Read more about the benefits of laughter here.)
4. Do something for you. This is a great time to get busy with a hobby you enjoy. Read a good book, go outside and garden, try that new recipe you have been wanting to make. Doing something you love often raises your spirits.
Bonus: Do it with someone you love. I recently got together with my mom and we worked on sewing a new tree skirt for the Christmas tree while having a lot of fun.
5. Pray, meditate, walk in nature. Sometimes a little spirituality goes a long way. Feeling connected to something greater than yourself can be very uplifting.
6. Spend time with loved ones. There is something about being around the people you love. Just being in their presence can have a very calming and relaxing effect.
Tip: Pick something relaxing in advance. Just let go and be.
What are your tips for being happier?
25 thoughts on “6 Ways to be Happier When You’re Feeling Down”
What a great article. These are awesome ideas. I love going for a nature walk, or just taking time to feel the feelings. I also use a journal to write out any emotions. These are all great tips thank you so much.
Thank you Jen. Using a journal is great advice!
I’ve learned to feel into my negative emotions to see where they’re truly coming from. Meditation and yoga really helps me recenter and ground myself. Great post!
Thank you Nicole. I love yoga and meditation too!
I absolutely love watching that movie. Sadness is my favourite character!
Please don’t get me wrong I’m not sad I just think she is a brilliant character.
I took from that movie that there aren’t bad emotions, each one is important in its own way.
Nikita, I agree. Each emotion is important. I am working on feeling each emotion fully!
Laughter seems to break the tension and help any mood change. It’s the simple things in life for sure. Nice article
Thank you Rebecca!I have a few TV shows that always make me laugh (The Big Bang Theory and Impractical Jokers). When I need a laugh I will turn one of these on.
I appreciate your mentioning of experiencing your full emotions ~ something I need to work on. My go to happiness ritual is yoga and meditation and treating myself to something small, like a coffee or sweet treat.
Marie, it sounds like you have a great routine that works for you!
I think sometimes the negative emotions help alert us to when something needs to change. Kinda like when our body feels pain at a burn. It’s a way to step back and evaluate things and find out what’s the cause of the burn. Excellent points!
That is a fantastic point Julie. Thank you for bringing it up!
I love that you said that we need to address all of our emotions, not just the positive ones. I’ve been able to get an immense amount of clarity from my “down” days!
That’s awesome Kelsey! I am working on clarity from down days. 🙂
Definitely allow yourself to feel whatever the emotion is! Often people don’t like to do that or are afraid of the emotion. But you do feel so much better when you’ve allowed yourself to work through whatever it is!!! Great insight!
Thank you Angel! Sometimes I just want to ignore certain emotions. That is when they linger!
Laughter is the best medicine! You offered great suggestions. Getting outside helps me tremendously.
Thank you April! Laughter is one of my favorite ways to lift my spirits.
I always think of at least 10 things I am blessed to have and enjoy. Do something for someone else which makes anyone feel good.
I really do find the fastest way to improving my mood is letting myself experience whatever emotion I am really feeling. If I am Sad, I let myself be sad without being afraid of it.
Alice, I find the same thing. Sometimes when I try to push through an emotion it lingers. When I really feel it, it goes away!
Great tips and I use some of them sometimes. Usually when I feel down I just need some time to myself and not think about anything. Some Netflix usually heals my soul, haha. And of course talking to my bf or parents helps. I just don’t want tips or solutions, just someone who will listen 🙂
Sometimes alone time is all we need! I know what you mean when you talk about just wanting someone to listen. 🙂
I love this post. I talk a lot about happiness and I wish people would make this a priority in life. As a life and business coach, the bottom line for almost all of my coaching clients over the years is they want to feel happy.
Thank you Wendy! I am hoping to help people with that through this website. 🙂