Do other people frustrate you? Family members, co-workers, random strangers perhaps? Do you ever think a person should do this or should not have said that? How much frustration is there in your life or in the lives of those closest to you simply because things “should” or “should not” be different?…
Chances are that you picked a few things to work on in 2018. And if you’re a bit like me some of them may have tailed off a bit. That sucks. Now what!?…
Love is All You Need (Really)
“If I just had a little more money, life would be easier and I would be happier.”
How many times have you had that thought? No matter how happy we are, many of us think that more money could increase our level of happiness. A Harvard research study of adult development that went on for 75 years(!) tracking 724 men and their families tells us that money is not the key to happiness. (There is a 12 minute video clip of one of the researchers giving a TED talk about the study in the above link. Check it out, it is very interesting.)
A very quick way to be happier right now is to have an attitude of gratitude. Look for things you are grateful for in your life. No matter what is happening to you right now, there is something to be grateful for. It can be gratitude for the people in your life, the food you ate today, your job, an upcoming vacation. It can be as simple as having electricity or indoor plumbing.
Find the silver lining.
In every negative situation there is something positive. Find it! It will give you hope. It is something positive to focus on. Acknowledge the bad, feel the feelings associated with it. Then find the good. Feel those feelings. Concentrate on that. You can’t change what has already happened, but you can change your reaction to it.